Co-sleeping is a dirty word to some and a way of life to others.
If you don't know what co-sleeping is, I will briefly explain: it's sleeping together with your baby or small child.
Yep, it's that simple.
Why are people opposed to co-sleeping? It's not safe. What happens if you roll over onto baby and suffocate him? What if baby rolls off the side of the bed? What if you drop baby? Some people are also opposed because co-sleeping restricts intimacy with a spouse. Others feel like it's too crowded or that it creates dependency in children instead of teaching them to be independent.
Mama Crum was one of those people. I read the studies, I knew the "facts", I had no desire to sleep with my babies, because I knew it was not safe.
Nearly 3 and a half years ago, Monkey was born. He wanted to be held - all the time. He would not sleep if I put him down at night. He wanted to eat in the middle of the night, every night. Mama learned that it was easier to indulge him than to ignore him. Monkey began to nurse in the recliner while mama slept. Eventually, he began to sleep in the bed next to mama while he ate.
That was the beginning of the shift for me. I learned that, for me, we all got better sleep when baby was close. It was easiest for baby to be in bed with us. I got smarter with Crackers - we got a co-sleeper, you know, one of those beds that attaches to the side of a big bed so baby is right next to you, but still in his own space. We used it for a while, then Crackers went off to his crib and slept in it by himself, until a month ago - when we started climbing out, and getting in to mommy and daddy's bed.
Once again, we have a baby that wants to be held to sleep. Baby and mama sleep in the recliner a good portion of the night some nights. Now, though, the time is split between the recliner with Baby, and the bed with Mr. Crum, Monkey, and Crackers.
Yep. I co-sleep. I'm not fully committed to it. In fact, I would like my boys to spend the nights in their own beds, and they all have their own beds. I have to admit though that I love snuggling up with my boys. At nap time I always lay down with one of the big boys to snuggle until he falls asleep - or until I do, depending on the day.
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I am not so opposed to co-sleeping as I used to be. The safety issues? They are pretty small in my estimation, I can't imagine rolling onto my baby and not noticing. Maybe I'm just a light sleeper, but when my baby even breathes funny in his sleep, I wake up.
How do you feel about co-sleeping?